OK, I'm going to skip over all the marriage and family stuff (because you'll get great advice there from people with more experience than I have) and go straight for the trivial detail. What kind of school requires 20 hours a week of parent volunteer time per week?
That's insane.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16