Life has changed, and I choose to grow from it.

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Sorry but I missed a step,why is W only allowed 2 weeks holidays a year? Seems little to me, but if that is the legal arrangement, then good for you.

Firstly know exactly your rights. Reread the small print!! That will let you know what you can do. Maybe before posting you did that, but it us the first step

Secondly, what suits you? As you have no plans in place maybe nit having D suits so you don't have to take time off. Only you can decide. But make sure your reasons are good ones and correlate with my question.

Here is where it gets sticky. You are not obliged to but consider the bigger picture and all its complexities.
# if W pushes and bends the agreement and gets her way, it sets a precedence that should be nipped in the bud IMO. This does nit mean say no, but she needs to know it is your decision.
# falling back on the agreement with robot rigidity would achieve this BUT for me its not Simply Human and it is not you.
# you can be flexible without being a doormat. Whereas I realise the importance of sticking to an agreed structure especially in early separation, I believe life presents problems and opportunities at random that we humans should adapt to.
# hardcore tough love dbers will state she needs to fee consequences. There is logic to that, but it should not be the reason behind your decision again IMO.

Me personally would prefer to have my kids for Christmas. So I would probably be flexible now but be upfront about sticking to your agreement for the Christmas holidays. You could swap things out for the fall breakand let your D go until Wed and then you have her Thursday and Friday plus weekend.

Good luck with your decision.