echoing everyone else's comments. it's very hard to turn off that "taking care of" switch but the analogy of the plane going down worked for me: when a plane is going down we need to put the oxygen masks on ourselves first, not those we love.
Priority #1 needs to be getting a lawyer .. interview a few, make sure you are comfortable with your choice. There are a lot of parasites out there looking to foment even more discontent to pad their fee.
Breathe. That's all you have to do today is find a lawyer and breathe. Break it into the smallest chunks of time for yourself.
Good luck, keep reading and posting.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
