Next subject... I guess I'll talk about GF next. Things are still going really well. We have a bunch of differences, but we embrace our differences, we compliment each other with them, at least so far. We are both enjoying the communication being so open and honest about everything. There is no defensiveness, ever, what a huge relief to no longer have to walk on egg shells around the mentally unstable partner! The passion in our R is amazing, something we both have always desired and have never gotten from a previous R.
I proposed a couple weeks ago, she of course said yes. We are sharing the news with friends and family slowly. We plan to have a semi small ceremony, some time early next year. I haven't told the kids yet... I will wait until it is a little closer, though someone else may slip. I also would rather xW not know. I am an open book about pretty much everything with everyone, but her knowing this isn't likely going to help matters anyway. I think that means I am not guilty of using this R as "revenge?"
GF is staying at my house most of the time. Her D17 is here more than not, we get along quite well also. My kids still love being around GF, she loves being around them. I am sure I mentioned it before, that is a huge relief... If it didn't work out with my kids and GF, it wouldn't work out with me and GF, there would be no compromise there. GF is so good with my kids!!
Still... D [censored]!!! It will never be like it was, GF will never be the kids mother. xW will always be involved in their life, and I absolutely hate what this does to the kids. They will forever have to bounce between us. Holidays will forever be a PITA for them. I wanted so much more for my babies. There are no upsides to the kids in a D, I don't care what anyone says.... Especially when it's an ugly bitter D.
