Thanks everyone for checking in on me. I haven't posted much, partially because I have been busy, partially some guilt for not keeping up on other people's sitches... And partially because I still find it painful to even think about the crud that others are going through. Maybe me posting in my own thread will be helpful to someone?
Lots to add, not sure where to start... Maybe a couple posts will work out better?
First... xW... My atty created the amendment to the OFP, sent it to xW's atty, they signed it, returned it, my atty filed it... So everything is in place for us to go to coparenting counseling.
In the mean time, xW brought up a silly concern about the kids safety, through atty's. After a couple back and forths, I realized how stupid it is to be paying atty's for our communication. I had my mom text her instead. xW agreed to a request I had for the kids, really shocked me. And then in the same text reply accused me of dragging the D out, asking for more money, and now we have to go to court. Well, actually she is asking for more child support is why we are going to court in the first place, even though child support is a simple calc, she won't accept that amount. As long as we are in court, I plan to file a contempt motion against her for all the stuff she took from the house that she shouldn't have. Apparently that got her attention! I had my mom reply only with "wrote down you complaints, he will do the same, and you can talk about it in coparenting counseling." She replied with a simple "ok." Maybe she is finally realizing she isn't in total control.
In the same text she says that dragging it out is "taking a toll on the children." OK, I haven't told the kids anything, how is it taking a toll on them. In fact the stuff she took is hurting the children, it would be better for them if she just returned it.
Whatever! If the coparenting counseling ever happens, we can discuss it there. If not, we go to court. There's $10k worth of stuff I am trying to get back, so it is worth it to take her to court over it.
