Me and Midlife Wife and Midlife II

[Surfer]

CT Mate,

Just catching up on your sitch. So sorry you have had a crappy few days and I have not been there.

This strikes a chord

"you and mommy would play the song of love again"

Also, the fact he is opening up to you. He trusts you mate. 100% Hero Dad! That little man is all over you! You will bpnever betray that trust so you will never, ever loose it. Also, in time he will get it (he does already), he knows that you do play the song. That's why he feels safe to tell you. He doesn't say this to mummy because she would not listen and would brush his comments aside without validating them, or his feelings. I get similar things. Take the 'plus points' you are 100% trusted by him. He knows what you are doing and what she is not doing. He will not forget you as a total hero!

I know of some very, very smart people who have been through what your S is going through as a child their futures turned out great but all they wanted at the time was a Dad like you to reassure them. Grade A! Take the rest of the week off!

Yes e pain is horrible. Least of all home trying to work out loyalty. Don't sweat that, OM can't keep up with D. Never happens when D is amazing. Chill, be the man.

Also your posts on understanding her? I totally get it. Stop trying. Please. We all do. But just give less of a fcuk please. We sometimes need to just accept, we will never understand the way they think. If you had a dog that keep trying to p!ss on the cat would you want to understand how his mind worked, or would you just look at the dog and think hilarious you are an idiot. I know this vastly trivialises our situations but I just don't think we will EVER understand. They don't even understand their behaviour - I am 99.9% sure. So how the fcuk can we?

Mate. You have just 2 boxes to tick Superdad and Super CT. you are way over 80% - 90% there. The first box is smashed. The CT box only needs a bit of work.

You are doing great!

Surfer.