Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

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This reminds me of conversations I have had w/ my IC -- where she encouraged me to express my feelings to my W, that what she's chosen to do is really hard on me. She thought being authentic and expressive is a part of not being a doormat.

But of course it conflicts a bit with DB, where we're supposed to act like we are detached and our W's have on effect on us.

Maybe we can be both. At least I'm being both. Detached much of the time but then also down some of the times.