MB, I'm so glad you and MyGuy have settled into something smooth. It's nice to see two people work on a relationship.
Sometimes it hurts me that people I know still seem charmed by Mr P, especially people at the church that know he was leading the worship service while he was cheating on me. And they go anyway. Even people I considered pretty good friends didn't take a stand on my behalf. I feel a little betrayed by them too, sometimes.
Something Betsey said one time was eye opening. She said she was talking to someone, a neighbor maybe, and her D came up, and she teared up, after all those years. That made me think that I may never be completely over the hurt, but that it's ok. Because Betsey didn't say she broke down and ran off crying. Things will ease for you, MB, time is a great healer. Just don't be too hard on yourself if you don't get to the place MyGuy wants. He has a different relationship with his X than you do with Mr. Fantastic, he doesn't understand where you are coming from. So his viewpoint is valid, and so is yours. See where time takes you both.
