Me and Midlife Wife and Midlife II

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Just talk to your son and continue to make yourself a safe place for him. You're doing well. There is no logical way to take MLC. That's why it's important to concentrate on you.

No, there is no logic in it. Thank you sir, I feel like I am doing well. I am digging pretty deep these days - both in GAL and in identifying my own core self.

Your son feels safe expressing those feelings to you. You are his rock and safe place. Just keep being there to listen. Sometimes all my D wants is someone to talk to and get things off her chest. Sometimes the things are heartbreKing to hear. But you are his comfort and by listening and validTing, you are doing him a world of good.

Thank you Ginger1 for sharing this with me. I am trying to be his rock indeed, if not his lighthouse.

How did your son do on the court? I think this was a wonderful way to spend the morning playing basketball.

job, we had a great deal of fun. He was much too small to even hope of hitting the backboard (I will be looking for a park which has kid's goals). We worked on his rebounds and passing - which he enjoyed greatly. I did not attempt to coach him, just told him some basic ideas of passing and rebounding and we did that for a while.

In regards to your wife I will tell you a short story about mine that may help shed some light. About 4 months after our divorce was finalized I got a text from her asking me if I was happy. This text initiated our first real discussion since the divorce. She said to me during this discussion one very important point. She said that she had learned that she could not trust what her own mind was telling her. This was at the beginning of a very long slow process of her coming out of the MLC. It tells me and should tell others what is going on in their minds is not normal and that when they start to wake up they begin to figure this out.

Lifes Twists - thank you so much for speaking on my thread. This really does help. It is hard to comprehend from the outside, but I do understand how this could happen. I hope she is healthier now, your ex-wife that is. Personal stories are very helpful, so much appreciated.