Still keeping it real...

[BrightFuture]

Gwen, I’m so sorry you are having some tough times again. I ask myself the same question sometime, did I spent all these years with H “with a false sense of reality”… I also question if it was/is MLC. In your case, I think it is MLC for sure. He can be upset with you and blaming you for his “misfortunes”, but what do your D’s have to do with that? How a parent can punish his children for his partners faults (from MLCer point of view, of course)! I think your H has been in MLC, no doubt.

Also, the internet is not an indication of anything, if you mean that he and OW appear to be happy on the social media. Sometimes, the more happy and exaggerated messages you see on FB and other social media, more trouble it means… I do know for a fact, as I’ve seen a couple of instances of that, when people appear like they are best sole mates ever on FB, but fight and trash each other in real life. Take everything you see on the Internet (if you do that) with the grain of salt.

I think your H is at stage of his affair with OW (about 2 years), when things start going sour… the things are not new and exciting anymore… I think him texting his Ds with the wishes for new school year is some indication of that. At some point, he will realize what he’s done not only to you, but his D’s, and the awaking will be brutal. I’m a true believer of “what goes around, comes around.” And that OW… She is nothing… What kind of woman would not encourage her partner to maintain the relationship with his children… She is not decent woman in my books… And this is a woman your H went for… I’m absolutely sure she will show her true colors someday…

Gwen, it’s been 2 years since the BD for you. For some people this is not enough time to recover and heal. I know I’m one of these people. I was a royal mess 2 years into this. I think I had my heart pounding like crazy for the good 2 years after the BD. It was getting better after that. Gwen, give yourself a credit for making this far and giving so much support to our D’s. I know it must be tough in your case, as your H is one of these vanisher MLC types. Dropping the rope is more for you though. Take care of yourself and good luck with your search for a new job!