hang in there Ha ... I didn't want to add to the last thread as it was over 100 posts. Honey I have no freaking idea how you do what you do. I've come to realize in hindsight that I, too, was living with an active MLCer for several years before BD. While my exH had his own quirks and foibles, the basic theme of MLC ran straight and true, sadly ... I did all the wrong things, not knowing about DB and MWD's body of work. In fact, I had no idea what I was dealing with. Hindsight = 20/20.

Ha, I'm Catholic also. This is how it was explained to me: the Church will not recognize me as divorced ... so, I'm still married and all's fine in the eyes of the Church as long as I live as a faithful wife to your exH. If I date, then that's considered adultery. If I remarry, it won't be recognized.

So, that's what I can share. I know for me, that's been a very painful part of this whole mess. I was comforted by the knowledge that all's cool unless I start dating. I will jump off that bridge when I get to it. Hope this helps you my friend.

xoxoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver