Well, this weekend h is in again in the dorm room ALL weekend long. So far he has been outside those 4 walls for all of 2 or 3 hours. He is listening those same songs from last weekend. (The boys and I watched football and I intentionally turned the volume up to block it all out. If the TV wasn't on, I played cheerful music.)
And at S11's game, h was back to headphones on (during the whole game) and standing off all by himself. That, too, is how he was back in the spring. Other parents took note. He certainly stands out.
Meanwhile, I had a productive weekend. I ran errands and cleaned the house. S13 made a really nice dinner on Saturday. He is getting to be such a good cook!
The other day just after I made dinner I wasn't feeling well. S13, without being asked, cleaned up the whole kitchen! He put all the food away, cleaned all the pots and then brought me up some tea. I am so proud of the little man he is turning into and I happily told him so. S11 came up to keep me company. I am fortunate. They are really thoughtful, good boys.
Sometimes it surprises me given the dysfunction going on down in that kooky dorm room. I hope it is true, for all our sakes that it just takes one strong parent to pull our kids through this hot mess. I see it happening in other threads and I remind myself of this constantly.
I am going to leave the house for a hike because I feel the urge to barge in there A-Team style to tell him that he is lost, depressed and paranoid.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
