Chapter 4 - Acting As If

[bigybiz]

Help needed.

I've organized family therapy starting this week (after a summer break). I've organized it primarily for myself and S10 & S16. D20 has moved out - she is aware of it.

W is aware of it (she see's the dates, times, etc on the family calendar) - I've not told her about it directly.

Question: Should I ask her/encourage her to come?

My preliminary thoughts are - she knows about it, if she wants to come she will. But, if it is good for our sons for us all to be there should I swallow it and ask her to come.

Here is the background:

At the end of the last family session - all five of us. The Dr. said to W and I that we need to have MC. We went to two sessions and she quit (again).

So it seems dumb that she takes part - when she does not want to follow the Dr's prescriptions. I did propose an alternate Dr. - I gave her the referral from my family Dr - she has done nothing with it.

So what would a strong/confident man do

1) Leave it - she has all the info, if she wants to come or needs the appt moved etc - she can take action.

2) Look out for my sons and encourage her to come - as it would be the best thing for the boys (The Dr. has said that it's best that both parents be there).

OK DB'ers - let me know your thoughts.

My thoughts are option 1.

Thx

Bigy.