The reason they're safe & sound is down to the fantastic job you are doing as father Irish, I've no doubt of that.
I love your reply to your XW BTW
Me 50, ExW 49 T21, M13+ S15, S13 BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY) Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts Oct-2016 W petitions for D Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed Jun-2018 D'd