Wow, I read this thread and you guys are so much healthier than you think you are. I have the experience of knowing how it ends in D. My problem was that I was too caught up in the minutiae to be good at DB. I learned too late. But a funny thing happened. I liked, no make that loved the way my future was going to look. I was lucky. I was a man who was able to get full custody of my kids. And once I truly dropped the rope I was happy with myself. But let's be clear, there is nothing wrong with fighting for your M and your family and making mistakes. That's why we all ended up here.
Make your changes. But be true to yourself. That deep down self. Don't let anyone change your values or turn you into something you're truly not. I think DB is just helping you find the best version of you. For me it was too late to save my M, but when I got to where I wanted to be, that didnt matter to me because my XW was truly no longer attractive to me. And being around her wasn't weird for me any more. I think that's when you know the rope has been dropped.
I know you all can handle it.
Strength and Honor. You all have it.
Mules
If you are a new DB'er and you are poking thru the posts, you should read Mules comment and let it sink in. Sink,in deep.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
