I have no idea if what I'm about to say is DB or not, but I would not let him in the labor and delivery room. For me, labor and delivery is about the mom. It becomes about the baby once the cord is cut.
I'd offer to call him when you get to the hospital. He can wait in a waiting area until the baby is born, and then he can hold the baby. He has lost the right to watch the birth.
Just my two cents.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
