Me and my 2 daughters

[MrBond]

What Cld recommended...don't do that.

Just my two cents

[job]

I agree w/Cali and Mr. Bond. I think I know you fairly well from your postings and I think you'll just ignore the advice Cld has posted here.

Irish, continue as you have been. You know what you need to do in order to heal and help your daughters heal and continue on to fulfilling lives.

[Irish M]

Hi Job, Cali and MrBond

You all know me too well. I won't act on my XW small show of kindness. No real concern from her about our D14. It was like talking to a customer of mine.
Me: my daughter might have a respiratory issue.
Customer : oh if you need anything let me know
me: no all is good
Customer: ok ( walks away)

Replace customer with XW and same emotion lol

I have an appoinment to see her doctor next week but I'm pretty sure she is fine. She was out on the trampoline yesterday and came in breathing fine. I think it's more the idea of running 3 miles for gym that made her panic lol

CLD , I understand your hope that others connect with their MLC so it shows you their is an end. Sadly hope is lost very fast. Waiting for it to end is wasting your time. I sense you have a lot fix in yourself. You better get started because time will pass by fast for you and in a few years you will sadly be in the same spot

Irish

[bttrfly]

hey Irish ... keep on with what you're doing... you know the drill by now ... xoxoxo

[bttrfly]

hey leaf peeping buddy ... thanks for visiting my thread. had the chance to drive around greater Mass, RI and CT today - not many leaves are changing color at this point in the season. Course, up North it may be a bit different; in fact, judging from a photo my nephew posted to FB recently, Maine has some leaves starting to turn.
happy and safe travels my friend

[Irish M]

Hi Bttrfly
Thank you so much for the support :-) you are amazing xxx

The leaves where I live have not changed yet and they are saying a summer like fall so I will have to drive up to the mountains for the foliage.

The gov't called me today and cleared up all money's owed to me since I am a single parents. They mentioned they called XW and any support payments will be pulled directly from her pay check. I'm sure they advised her that the 5K plus that she claimed will have to be paid back.

She did have to transfer $ to me. 100 bucks , I'll put it in the girls accounts.
When she transfered money to me in the past she had to create a password so I can accept the money transfer. Usually the hint is : oldest kid
Now she never changed it in the last 15 months. Mind you she didn't transfer much either lol

Anyway she sends the transfer and the hint was my oldest D16 nickname
So I try her name. It failed

I write her and ask her . " who is ( nickname)
She writes back immediately
" Lollol ... Why it's D14 of course, she's my ( nickname) D16 is ( other nickname) !!!!!"

I reply one word "thanks "
Totally wrong but it's ok lol
Now I mentioned to her last week D14 has a doctors appointment for respiratory tests.

She doesn't ask about it .

She does again say" if you need any help, let me know!!!!!!"
She loves the multiple dots and exclamation points.

I don't reply to it but it does bother me. So a few hours later I ask" how can you help me, what is your suggestions to help?"

This was 2 hours ago, I am so curious to see what she comes up with. Maybe she'll offer to babysit ( like a teen) or close the pool for the season lol
I have no clue. But curious. Probably won't answer but it did no harm.

Have a great weekend everyone. I'm without a boot so I will surely have an adventure.

Irish

[Irish M]

I was wrong
She did answer my question of how she thinks she can help.
Her" no clue, if you need it I'm available. I know you are taking good care of my babies..."

My reply " thanks, 14 months and counting , I'm handling it fine. They are not little babies anymore, D14 is dating and D16 is driving. Take care"

Goes to show you she sees them safe and sound. Right where she left them.
At least she recognizes them as her kids.

Irish

[bttrfly]

i'm sorry
{{{{{ hugs }}}}}

[HTM]

The reason they're safe & sound is down to the fantastic job you are doing as father Irish, I've no doubt of that.

I love your reply to your XW BTW

[123Gwen]

Irish - In a weird sort of way I think the WAS leaves them with us because we are the best choice. Kind of like abandoning the baby at the church...Glad she acknowledged D's because all hope is not lost but also think you are very centered and able to best see the conversation for what it is right now. Perhaps she will be more specific in her desire to connect with them at some point in the future. My H's random efforts to reach out to our D's is very disruptive to them. They dislike his short random group text and tell me they believe it is insincere. I stay neutral but I have to say that asking for my advice would help him if his effort was genuine. I guess I think you are doing great but keeping the door open by responding is ultimately a good thing. If and when she ever wakes up the fact is your assistance may be her only hope of reconnecting with your daughters. Maybe not your help but some sort of approval. Her actions have ensured that the only path back to her children in any meaningful way is through you.