Trying to detach - part deux

[Cherry]

I meant to say about getting in contact with her real dad, if he walked away and doesn't have much contact with her, is this a good idea. It might confuse her some more. And plus it may put extra strain on you, release old feelings, or be one more stress. I feel for her being old enough to understand, as much as she may come across hard and not phased by his bs, it may well do deep down.

And don't be too hard on yourself girl, this isn't easy at all, and you're moving forward. We all have slide backs from time to time, but as long as we pick ourselves up and carry on- that's what matters!

But I agree with forgump, it's hard to see people putting their needs over their children's. It breaks my heart that wh doesn't spend anytime with S at all and is never around for him, and I feel for this baby that isn't going to know him or have the same bond he had with S when he was born. But this is all totally out of our control. The only thing we can do is make sure that they are loved and cared for. It's hard some days when you feel pain to put a brave face on for the kids, but we do. I don't want my S to see his mama cry.