Well, I didn't know how formal it might be, but it could tension she's feeling.......as a bride and wanting everything to be just perfect.
I'm sorry there is resentment. Hope things get better after her big day and you will be, hopefully, not facing the stuff you've been going through with your W.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
