You sound great and I'm so happy you've moved into your new home and love he area.
Yes your xh now feels the job isn't making him happy and he's going to find retirement isn't going to make him any happier, but we'll see. Interesting to see that his is playing boyfriend and father to someone 17 years younger than himself and she has two young children. Retirement sounds like it's going to be babysitting time for him. LOL!
I'm very happy that things are working out well for you. Please don't be a stranger and come back to visit more often. We are always interested in hearing the success stories of our posters.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.