MLC will take as long as it takes and we urge folks not to focus on the timelines that have been posted over over again on the forums. Those timelimes are just estimates/guidelines and each and every person will have a different timeline because their crisis is as unique as they are. I hate to say it, but two years is a very short period of time. I'm sorry.
She notices the changes you are making. She may not be around you a lot, but she definitely notices changes and she will not say anything about them. She can also sense your moods and pick up on things by your body language and reactions.
Here's a thought, instead of going out w/her sometimes (when she suggests it), tell her you have other plans and go do something on your own. When you are readily available, it tells her that you are right where she left you and knows that you will be there for her. Sometimes we have to change up a bit in the way we do things w/them. You can't be old reliable all of the time. It's okay to plan other things and leave her guessing as to what you are doing. It will not discourage her from asking you again...don't be afraid to try new things. If something is working, fine, but if it's not, then try something else.
Keep your expectations at zero. Try to remember, she's depressed and there is no "joy" in her life right now. They go thru the motions and might find some joy, but it is short lived.
Try to keep the focus on you, start GALing, and give her plenty of space and time to work on herself. The less she focuses on you, the more time she'll have to focus on herself and hopefully look within and realize that happiness comes from within, not externally.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
