One thing I've learnt in this whole thing, is that you can't demand that someone else respect you. You can't really make them do (or feel) anything at all really. You have no control over this.
The only thing you can do is make a decision on how far you're willing to let their behaviour affect you.
You make that decision based on your own values and principles.
But that takes a little time and thinking to work out. Because this process is entirely yours, and yours alone. And it's like peeling back the layers of an onion. When one layer is off, there is another one right underneath to look at an get used to. It looks kinda similar in lots of ways, but it's also different and has its own beauty (and blemishes).
I know its really, really hard when you've been so used to being so close to someone (your spouse). It's a bit of a head **** in fact, and pretty frightening as well. But that's the journey you've been put on (along with the rest of us here). It's what you want to do with that.
Sorry for not being able to sound more positive and upbeat. Still struggling with mine at times.
