I see great value in using DB regardless of the outcome. The principles here and other places are the habits you will need in place to build a relationship with your current spouse or a new spouse. Consider the goal as to how to have a great marriage.
Surfer, you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. Going forward you need a clear idea of what you want if you divorce. Know the law, and know how it can favor you on custody. If it doesn't work on making changes that will favor you, but not by degrading her.
