Even if my posts might involved H, I have decided to report on how I deal with a situation involving H.
Today was the first day I physically saw H after going dark for 2 weeks, and to be honest I was annoyed as when I don't see him physically I'm a lot better. Anyway after going over this annoyance, H tells me that he can't have kids one weekend, then gives me the dates he is going away! A full week (so now I know why he didn't take a week off with his kids), and I was annoyed and my heart felt tight because he is going away with OW.
Then he proceeds to tell me where he is going. Honestly do I really need to know that?. I said good on him. Didn't ask if OW is going or not but it seems unlikely because he is going with his team mates and most of them won't go with their wives. Anyway H asked to swap weekends, I have no problems with it, then carry on telling me that he will organise a birthday party for our kid before he goes on holidays and even told me when he'll give the presents. This was really weird as I have organised a party for kids but haven't informed him about it as, as far as I am concerned he doesn't want to be part of this family.
I'm not lying saying I didn't understand his needs to give all those details and was jealous as now he has really step up as a father ( just wishing he had done it while with me). It only took me 10 minutes to dwell on it and then I moved on.
AND this is my ACHIEVMENT as I didn't let it consume me like it would have done for the rest of the day. I'm proud of myself for this.
