I should also say that I don't have to see OM ever again. To be completely honest, If I had to encounter him at all during the early stages, I don't know what would've transpired (I know some not good things).
The important thing to remember is that you're where you want to be in the R. and that you are where you want to be in life.
I'm to the point now where I really don't think about the OM. when I learned a little more about him I realized how pathetic he really was.
To be honest, the fact that I was in a better position financially and otherwise was kind of a slap to the face; I mean, why would W leave me for this guy? It was confusing until I realized that so little of this had to do with him and so much of it had to do with what W was looking for.
I think of it like this now: The timing for the W and OM was a perfect storm. It literally could've been anyone, it just happened to be this guy.
Does that makes sense? Yes, she responsible for some the pain, but what if it wasn't her? What if it was another OW (and it very well and easily could have been)?
This particular OW was a product, or an effect of your W's problems, not the cause.
