Be sure to take Sandi's advice on being Steve McQueen cool. I chose to emulate Snoop Dogg and it didn't go so well. We'd already had issues communicating, and my WW didn't understand gangsta rap slang at all. In addition, my WW had been a cop years ago, so there was the whole racial thing as well. (When your wife is an ex-cop, you shouldn't ax her if she's dealing dime bags.)
Don't introduce additional variables into your marital troubles; go with McQueen, not Dogg.
