Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

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JRuss -- box-checking or not, I would take a chance to go to an MC w/ my W; as opposed to having no MC.

Maybe the first question you can tackle together at MC is, "What do you honestly hope to gain from MC?" The implied question is, "Are we just box-checking? Or is this marriage -- at least in theory -- salvageable?"

I don't know why but I remain optimistic, that this isn't box-checking, that your W has at least a smidgen of doubt about where she's going.

I'm just projecting my situation onto yours, but if I had the chance to do MC with her, I would explore the question, "What do you think you're getting by doing a divorce?" And "Will you really be happy after a divorce?" "Won't your demons still be there?" And hope that the W will figure herself out first before causing collateral damage on the family for her own unhappiness.