I know exactly how you feel and I also know that we can not do anything to "fix" it or make the time pass faster.
Divorce is not important. In my situation it has never even been mentioned. Because my W is living as if divorce is just a frame of mind and it really is. The piece of paper means nothing, I have been divorced for months I just didn't know it yet.
My W is now in a "relationship" she started 3 months after she moved out. So I guess what I'm saying is just take it day by day and don't view divorce as being the "end" it's just another stage. And like in most cases divorce changes nothing, we will still need to see our W's forever.
The best advice I can give and I'm no expert is just make yourself the best person you can. I know you would have heard it 100 times before and it's little comfort to us that are left to dwell on the past but seriously hanging on to hope and wanting my W was killing me slowly and I needed it to stop.
I have now made my peace with the fact she has moved on and is right now happy. Now I am working on myself to be in the same position.
Life is short, put all your energy into focusing on positives and not negatives. Your son needs you. Stay strong.
ME- 31 W-25 T-5 M-3 D2 ILYBNILWY and moved out - FEB16 W seeing someone else - JUL16
RSG, I'm so sorry youre having to go through this. You are right. The lies hurt the most. I completely understand where you are coming from with that part.
Best you can do now is keep focusing on you and your son. The advice about not focusing on divorce is spot on. But you know all that already.
To be honest with you brother, you are one of the most well equipped of us around here to handle this. I honestly think this is just a small bump in the road for you. You are highly adaptable, as we've all seen throughout your situation and I've no doubt you can move past this new stuff and thrive. You are an amazing dad and a strong man. I, personally have gained a lot of strength from you being such a rock.
Hang in there brother. You have so much positive going for you. Keep moving in the direction you have been and everything will be good!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
Your love for your son has not been a lie. Your attention to bettering yourself has not been a lie. Here is another thing that is not a lie. I believe in you RSG. I believe you are one fkawesome father. I believe you are one fkawesome RSG. It is still 2016, and the above are not lies. You have done everything here better than most and have been an inspiration to me, I have no reason to see why that shall not continue.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
