I agree with everyone that I need to stand up for myself, which is what I'm doing, but I disagree that she will respect it. The women in her family (her grandma, mother, aunt, cousin) wear the pants and the men are as she calls them "doormats". I think in addition to her personality issues is the fact that the women in her family are controlling and people like her grandpa, uncle, brother, etc are more submissive and I don't think she was used to that. She has often said " I think you have a problem with women", but I am realizing how that that is most likely projection based on the way she has seen men treated.
