Mozza's own success story

[Mozza]

Thanks! It's so nice to see your familiar.... usernames. That's the hardest part: while I feel less involved in managing my D, I do still feel a connection to all of you. And the things you share still stay with me and make me reflect. Right now, I'm thinking of what "being defined by my D" means to me, after Maybell's post.

Yesterday XW took the kids out for D5's birthday. After she dropped them off, they were overcome by sadness, missing her, and they cried for a good 30 minutes (no crisis, mostly the silent tears of deep sadness). I consoled them and told that I was sad too when their mom left. I couldn't help thinking that XW has not idea this is happening, much like she doesn't know much about my pain. And then again, it doesn't matter because it wouldn't change a thing for either of us.

This week, it's been two years since XW walked out the door. I didn't think of it until I had a conversation about the D with a friend in the evening. Just that is a sign that I'm moving on.

I'm sure I'll come back and have a look around at your stories. I'll let you know when I get the D papers, for sure (yes, I'm not even oficially D!). I guess I'm just managing expectations and giving myself permission to focus less on that part of my life.