My wife always resisted MC. She always insisted that we could just "talk things out between us." I felt like we needed a third party in order to get a subjective viewpoint. (My wife has an aversion to counseling, but that's a long story.)
Anyway, back in January we'd had yet another argument and after the argument she said, "This is the way I see it; it's either marriage counseling or get a lawyer." I was completely surprised that she mentioned MC, and of course, I took the MC option. Unfortunately, when we went to see the MC it became obvious that she had no intention of making things work.
Looking back, it was obvious that she was just checking things off of her list and MC was one of the things to be checked off. Her agenda was clear, she just needed an MC session to reduce her feelings of guilt. I actually got her to go to three sessions, but with each session, things got worse.
However, I'm glad we went to MC. MC wasn't going to change our marriage relationship, but the MC became my IC and she was was priceless. I owe that woman so much. (And I literally owe her a $20 co-pay that I forgot to give her. She's going to get her $20 along with a big thank you card.)
