Focus on Me and my Boys 8

[J5K]

Coconut,

Appreciate the kind words. I am not upset with my sister. As with all our WAS's, family is the same way, their monkeys their circus.

Rose, Sandi,

Although sometimes difficult to read, I respect the different POV. It helps me grow and recognize the individuality of others.

Our family always invites children to events. All my nieces and nephews will be there and kids of other friends.

My sister is upset because the plan changed last minute and she can't handle the emotional turmoil this has caused for her. I get it and even though I want to be there, I am choosing to be with my boys and come later to support her and celebrate than to be there for a dinner and the blessing of the rings. I am not upset that she does not have room for them, I am just suggesting a solution that works for both parties, not the best solution but everyone gets something out of it that is positive.

To be brutally honest, I resent my sister for not supporting me in the past when I needed her. I still have resentment towards her but still said yes to attending the engagement party. At one point I had so much resentment I was in a state of mind that I was not even going to go to the wedding. My sister's sense of entitlement is worse than my STBX's sometimes. This is probably why I can put up with a lot of $hit sandwiches from STBX.

Anyway, I have more to say on the Jim vs. STBX front, have to get back to work and will post later.