So I as I mentioned in my previous post, my wife has asked me to move out of the house. I was firm and told her I will stay at the house to the divorce is finalized. She had not filed at that time.
So she comes back this week and asks to separate our finances. Currently all money comes into the joint accounts and all bills paid thru joint account. We agree to have our pay checks deposited into our individual accounts. We break up bills individual vs family expenses. We will keep the joint account open only to pay the minimum family bills (mortgage, lights, water). We agree on how much to fund the joint account each month.
Next she brings up the divorce. Previously I said I would not discuss divorce and if she wanted one just go file and I will deal with it. As I previously suspected she is trying a “do it yourself divorce”. She picked up the paper work at the county clerk’s office. We went over the house, money, retirement plans, debt and our child. It was a heated discussion at time. When it was all said and done we agreed in principal on a fair split. My wife said she would complete the paperwork by Oct 1st.
So now “the rubber meets the road.” Let’s see if she follows thru and files. I still want her to do all the heavy lifting and file the papers on me. But this is her out if she wants it.
I reviewed all this with my marriage (now individual) counselor. My IC wants me to act on the divorce and help my wife fill out the paper work to expedite the process. She thinks it’s a good deal and I need to act on it. My IC thinks it’s not worth saving the marriage based on what I’ve told her about my wife. I know DB and “5 Languages of Love Book” believe all marriages can be saved. I’m leaning towards ignoring my IC’s advice on this one. Its free will at this point guys…
