Taking my first sip of the water

[ATPeace]

SH thank you my friend it means a lot to me to be in your thoughts

Ok I am [censored] scared of how things are going to go but something has to change I have had lots of support and my constant spinning is not helping

So things that I have learnt

1) I control me and I control my actions

2) everything one does is a choice

3) love his very little to do with it

4) time does not stop no matter how one feels it tick tick ticks till the day you die

So I am re reading my thread and I am going to do what I can to make the next thread as much about me as Possible and how I am working on making changes

From time to time I may recap on things to gain clarity but you focus will be on moving somewhere

So starting with this
I am still living with my W and I do not believe that this needs to change as we are getting along ....or is now the time that I need to make the move to separate houses while we are getting along to preserve the relationship that we have ....could it ever get to the point where we are not getting along and she starts to hate me ....or have I learnt enough already and through not biting or reacting to her upset and by validating and being supportive that this would be enough to keep things on the level.....no mind reading just actions.

Confusion as to what I should do or should not do not wanting to make things worse ...see I am still thinking about my situation this needs to change.

So my children how I love my children as they grow older challenges on how to parent them let them know they are loved keep them safe set boundaries give and take give them the freedoms to make mistakes and to be there for them if they need help but let them learn and let them make decisions

I will keep reading my current thread and look for ways to change

Take care

Ghost