To answer your questions, to my knowledge, she has not been diagnosed with BPD, but it has been indicated by a couple therapists with whom we have both met. I suspect she has, but would never admit it to me.
WRT letting her go, it 8s difficult for me, as I still have feelings for her and the plans and dreams of a future together have been crushed. We spent a lot of time together (all 6 of us) as a family and she and I had many good times together too. I know there was a lot missing in our marriage, but that doesn't stop me from missing the time together.
