Life has changed, and I choose to grow from it.

[SH_]

Yes to the bambo story. There is another image on the net that depicts this very well. A guy digging a tunnel and gives up and turns back. Another swing or two if his pick and he would have broken through to daylight. In such a tunnel what lies ahead is exactly what has gone before with no sign of a breakthrough until it happens.

I am glad D18 is getting out and about.

As for W's crash I have two thoughts.
1. Empathy is a good quality to have. You don't need to justify it. Maybe it is against DB protocol to have reached out. But to me you did so because that is who you are and not for any return. So that is OK. I may have said you AND D are OK when expressing concern. That is in accordance with h best DB practices BUT becoming a better and truer to self SH, makes priority IMO
2. The first accident was her fault........unless the fire hydrant jumped in front of her car! A second minor accident indicates lack of focus. This is common in stressed/depressed people. Now she could just have been unlucky, but I would put money on her being in a depression daze. Most people can function in this state albeit at a lesser capacity. You cannot fix this but be vigilante about when D6 is with her. I am not being alarmist but thought it worth mentioning. Any direct interference from you will nor be welcome nor helpful.So unless you feel there is danger for D6, observe from a distance

Have a good Sunday

roist, thank you for checking in on my. You thoughts confirm those that I have had as well. I have been concerned as I know she is displaying signs of depression from what I see and is shared with me. I do have some concerns for d6, but only in that she is not paying attention to things. I know she loves d6 as I do...awareness i will maintain.
And thank you for the vote of confidence on my decision to reach out to her to see how she was doing. I did ask how her and d6 were doing and then asked how she was as I knew she has had some challenges.

I think we look at a lot of the same stuff. The guy digging the tunnel is one I have seen many times and try and remember.
Thank you roist...you have been a true support for me and I can not express my appreciation enough for that.

It is so nice that your wife responded cordially to your concern for her health, even if she claims she did not mean to call you.

In my opinion, there was nothing wrong with contacting her to check if she was okay, as long as you did it without having expectations that something would come of it. I'm so glad your little one is okay.

Thanks RL,
I truly no expectations.
She went back to being very cold when I saw her at the pickups for D6 this week. I noticed, but did not feel anything more than I would a semi rude stranger on the street.
But then tonight, I call to speak with D6 as I am missing her a lot today, and STBX answers...
She never answers when I call..
She was polite again...
Asked for money for an after school program for D6, but she was polite.
But no matter...
I will be forever polite to her, regardless of the reasons and always without expectations.......

CT1118.....
Wow, your post has been read several times and has had quite the impact in my thoughts....
I am so appreciative that you stopped by and shared....
You really do know the demons dancing in my head...
I could sense that without a doubt.
Thank you so much.

Rose,
I will swing by your thread again...