Sorry you are here. You seem to be handling yourself very well. Just peaked at your sitch. I wanted to ask about your expectations for having a friendship with H? Is that only in hopes of reconciling the M? If he continues to pursue women and then starts talking about it, is this a friendship you can handle? Or want?
It just sounds terribly painful. I am years down the road from you (my H has been back for 1 1/2 years) but I know that I could not have handled friendship. I was so angry and hurt for what was happening that is felt fake to me to be friends. Secondly, the times I was friendly with him it seemed he was cake eating--he went off and did what he wanted and then continued to benefit from family time.
Our sitches our different I know. I just want you to stay true to your heart. It is perfectly okay to take a step back and focus on you. If he asks you why, you can even tell him you don't want a friendship right now, you married him for a marriage. Look he is trying to divorce you, it's okay to be hurt and angry. In my sitch it wasnt until H moved out and experienced the loss of me that he realized what a mistake it was!
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
