Gosh this is making me cry but yes they had/have (?) a very good relationship. Although he was her step Dad she loves him like he is her real Dad and he loves her like she is his own flesh and blood. When she was in hospital a few years ago and H was out of work for a couple of months he spent most of his days and nights with her in hospital so I didn't have to take too much time off work. He actually took her to the bathroom and held her hand/cuddled her when she needed it. Slept in uncomfortable hospital chairs night after night. We thought he was a keeper. He did it unconditionally.
Sometimes they were like two peas in a pod liking the same music, films, trainers!
But now she feels so let down, disappointed, angry and she is getting weary of his behaviour especially how he has moved on from us so quickly.
I've told her that it is up to her if she wants to continue a relationship with him. At the beginning I forced her to see him when she was very angry with him and I did that with her real Dad and it ended badly. So I have backed away. At her age she gets bored easily and he is never really sure what to do with her. She says a few times she went out with him he seemed to fly off the handle with situations that in the past he never would have done for example a parking meter not working!
Idk. I feel so frustrated about it all! I'm having a rubbish couple of days missing him really badly. I'm thinking of writing to D's real Dad to see if they can see each other again. I'm not sure if that is the right thing to do....
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
