lost, don't leave the MBR... When I found out about OM, I very sternly told my WW that I would not share the bedroom, she fought about it, and then left the MBR... She won't like it, but doesn't mean she won't go. It was a big issue with W, but I held my ground and she left.
Not sharing your marital bed with a wayward wife is not controlling, it is you not tolerating an open marriage. You'll get the advice you need to set the boundary, just be patient.. Not saying any advice you received is wrong, just not helpful for the path you are trying to take.
Coconut, what if she refuses? Is she to physically throw her out? he could give her the speech and she can say "no, my bed too" Your wife chose to agree. What if she didn't?
Then he shuts off the phone. She gets another one in her own name and continues with the texting. Is it awfully disrespectful? Absolutely! I don't agree with it.
The thing about boundaries are they have to be enforceable. The only way you can enforce them is taking action yourself.
I'm not saying leaving the MBR is the best idea. I'm just saying if you want to ensure you are removed from the situation, the only way is to take your self out.
personal example. I did not want OW around my baby D. I told my ex how it made me feel, that I will not allow it....
Did he listen? of course not. I couldn't make him. I could only legally make sure she wasn't left alone with her.
If you want to take a shot and see if it works, be my guest. But if it doesn't? Then you need a plan.
