Do you really think he notices me anymore? He acts like he wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole.
Z-- he just turned his own world upside down by leaving you and your girl, and is doing a lot of mental and emotional acrobatics to make HIMSELF feel like he isn't a total assohle. So yeah, he can't stand to look at you, because in his twisted mind you are the source of all his problems -- and you are, because it makes his conscience wake up.
At least that's what I imagine is happening.
Look, if you're not violent, if you don't have a substance abuse problem, then he should have worked things out with you like a mature, caring adult. He should have treated you with some respect, if not as a spouse and the mother of his child, then at least as another human being with deep feelings. Don't settle for anything less than that. Don't set the bar lower.
You'll see in this forum that it's very common for the one leaving to blindside the one left behind. The left-behind spouse (LHS) is baffled ... "What? But we were just very loving and affectionate?" "What? Just yesterday you kissed me so warmly." "What? We just made love last night."
Be a great Mom, Z. Be a great woman.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
