Tell me what to do!!!

[AndrewP]

Zanadoo - Good Morning!

I hate to say it but I have one more task to add to the pile you've already been assigned. It may seem like a silly one, but trust me, this may be one of the most important things you do. Buried waay back in the reading that Cadet gave you which I encourage to get to is one important thing that made a huge change to me and may for you too.

Every day. And I mean Every day, I want you to take time in the morning to make sure you spend some time on yourself, making yourself look good. As your day frazzles you make what repairs you can as the day progresses so you are always looking your best. I'm not talking about getting all dressed up as well as you can, I'm talking about a busy young Mom who might be expecting a visit from her Uncle Andrew for a cup of tea and a chat. Milk in the cup first please with a drop of honey for sweetness.

In my case it used to be that when I was on vacation or on the weekends I used to skip shaving for a couple of days, would wear the same shirt a few days in a row and if I was working in the garden would have some stained old shop clothes that I would wear. My W never seemed to care unless I went into town in my old clothes (the rubber boots were a horror to her) so I allowed myself to be sloppy and not the best that I could be.

Now - every day even earlier this week when I was off sick - I get up, shower, shave, put on after-shave, make sure my hair looks nice and put on clean clothes that fit properly - or at least as properly as some of them do after dropping 50lbs because of stress / depression. Then I look at myself in the mirror and say "I look great today". When I started doing this I will admit it was to impress my W but it didn't take long for me to realize that I'm doing it for me.

I know it's tough with a little one but I'd like you to make this same effort. Not to impress your H (and he will be impressed) but for you. If you need extra motivation and perhaps as a joke if your H asks you why you are "dressed up" you can say that you thought your Uncle Andrew might be stopping by for a cup of tea and a visit.