I understand how you feel, it would be very hard for me to take my spouse back after an A. I used to think that was the one situation in which I would initiate a D myself. In any other situation I would fight for the M.
When a relationship is built on trust, and this is a fundamental breach of trust, then what can you do.
Thank you for this. I never thought prior that I would be able to see past any kind of A. So here I am now wondering the same thing. I keep thinking and telling him he needs to try harder. I have asked him to initiate more time together, more plans, and more affection. Perhaps that is me keeping a wall up? Not sure. All those little things about him that I learned to see past, now feel like deal breakers. Ultimately it is the betrayal of the A. Do I really want to spend the rest of my life with this in my history? I am starting to ask myself that. I adored this man and was so in love with him. I still miss feeling that way.
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
