Do you feel you have adequate and competent legal representation? I feel (and I could be dead wrong) that you could do better with better legal representation. I think your W needs a dose of reality ASAP.
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I do have legal representation. I had to hire an attorney, as it has been two years since the split and she will not get a job. She said she thought she would have been given a few years. I wasn't really happy with the lawyer I had for the divorce, as I think she let me get screwed (not intentionally though), but this one says he is really aggressive. I am still not sure I am comfortable because the attorneys all know each other and I don't feel like he is listening. I am going to tell him when we go into court that I am not leaving without talking to the judge. There is a lot the judge needs to hear, but I am still not sure I will get the chance.
She is used to getting her way with everything she does and I am afraid the court will just look the other way. We are supposed to go to court on November 2, but she is supposed to have a vocational evaluation first since she claims she is not qualified to get a job.
She is really good with the crazy-making behaviors and I keep having to remind myself that I am not the bad person she says I am and that she is being irrational. I don't think most people who divorce fight the way she does. I don't even prompt her, but the one thing that really seems to tick her off is when I ignore her. She is a bully and I am so used to taking the bait. Now I bite my tongue and ignore her and it really makes her mad.
I am trying to see if there is a bright side, but it is a struggle. I will keep you all updated. Thanks for the support.
