I'm browsing deeply in the threads/info over in the mlc section.I know you did this a long time ago. Anyway long story short, I have an even deeper understanding of your path and wanted to congratulate you (yes again!!) For having followed that path for so long.
Maybe it would be easier to walk away. Heck maybe that would even save our situations. In the beginning many lbs cling to their M for the wrong reasons. Over time those reasons ( such as fear ) fade and the lbs no no longer NEEDS to stay but CHOOSES to stay. I respect your choice and it has: inspired me manys a time when I needed it.
Sometimes I believe the WAS needs to go before they can really cone back. Being an active choice rather than a passive resignation seems to occur in such cases. This crisis will take a certain time to run its course regardless. So holding the family unit together is a huge bonus we should be super grateful for. I know you appreciate this but sometimes we need to hear stuff we already know.
The price is high for this but if we save our M it is worth it. If not as long as we are using that time productively it is not wasted. You have not wasted your time during this process. You have grown. Your life is fuller. Your boys are sheltered from a breakup.
I probably posted this as much for me as for you, but I wanted to thank you again for your presence, help and inspiration on my journey.
Best wishes my friend.
PS someone has to keep up your tradition of long posts.Luckily I just dropped by to ask how your weekend went and what you have this weekend?
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
