Hi job, yes I do feel what you are saying does apply - I just find the lack of any forward planning rather hard to deal with.
Due to a couple of reasons: it is hard being on your own so I do like to have something planned for my evenings. I also do want to spend time with W but I'm not willing to sit around waiting on her if I can keep myself busy. Hence I don't want to waste an evening and like you say if she wants to be with me she'd better let me know. I just want to make sure I'm not coming across as "rejecting" when the reality is I don't want to be stuck at home.
This evening I've just had an invite to a meal out - trouble is it's way too little notice as I've sorted our family meal for tomorrow so think I'll pass on this one but suggest we do it at another time as it's not convenient. I know I shouldn't be but I'm annoyed she has suggested this so late, and also that there is no reason why she couldn't do this any other night than the one I have the kids for tea.
M 10, T 18 M: 36, W: 35, D: 8, S: 6 EA: Oct 12 ILYBINILWY: Jan 15 BD: Aug 15 Separated: Sep 15 Miss you: Jun 16 Aug 16: Dating (!) Oct 16: Selfishness returns... currently: disgusted