Maybe she's looking at the time you spend w/her as just friends getting together. She doesn't want to classify as dating because it may up the expectations level and she doesn't want to give you the impression that she's softening up. You started out as friends and I would continue down the friends avenue for a while.
Are you the one that is always makng the plans to meet up? If so, turn the tables and allow her to do this. If she doesn't do it, then go on about your business.
If she's in MLC, it takes years for them to go thru the entire crisis. While she's doing so, work on yourself. Don't sit around waiting for her to call or meet up. Do things on your own and for yourself. When she senses that you are pulling away and living your life w/o her in it, she'll start to contact you. When she does, don't pursue her, just go about your normal day.
Again, friendship is the beginning of any relationship and that's where you will need to start at. Can you do this? Can you keep your expectations at zero or close to zero?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
