Tell me what to do!!!

[AndrewP]

It just feels like this is the end and I don't have the option to pursue my dreams because it will all be ripped away from me.

We can perhaps help you better if we can get know you a bit better. Tell us about these dreams.

It is sad... I was super cute and a bit of a firecracker when we first started dating. I could hunt, fish, ride horses, and still clean up and look like a lady. But there is something about being a new mother you feel like you can't go do like you did. I don't know does that seem odd? Or maybe it was the way he treated me I don't know.

Zanadoo - you need to find the "you" again that is still inside you. We have a few young mothers and pregnant gals here struggling just like you are. What might help you is to perhaps go visiting and learn who your neighbours are here on the forum. I'd like to introduce you to a very special young lady called Cherry who has lifted my spirits more than once when I've been down. You can find her current thread over at
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2705041&page=7

Over on Cherry's thread you'll find other young ladies who are helping and support her just like she's supporting them (and old codgers like me). We also have a few people who've completed their journeys who've come back and given back to this community.

You are not alone. Others are going through these same fires too. You feel lost in a fog (or perhaps in your case a dust storm). I'm glad you've reached out your hand. Get to know your neighbours, learn about their stories and you will find that many of us are fighting similar fights and you will learn from them. Together we're a sort of family. Perhaps the mixed up sort, but a family nonetheless. We also have our own odd-balls, people with unusual ideas and some who just seem to write to spout off whatever sort of bile happens to be in their gut at that time (I think my in-laws fall into that camp ). If any of them come to call try to pay them no mind. There will be some people though who will ask you some questions or challenge you that you may find difficult to face so please think hard before deciding if someone who posts is being rude, or is trying to give you a bit of a shake to make you think. Sometimes it's necessary to do both.

Anyway - break time's over - back to work for a while then I need to figure out what to make myself for supper. It's just me and the cats here now while I wait for my W to complete her own journey.

PS - if you want to find the "home threads" of any of your visitors you can click on their names and select "view posts" which will show you where they've visited. Most of us have our own stories. If you have patience for a lot of reading - I tend to write really long posts full of nonsense on my own thread (I can hear you laughing from here eric!) I'm currently rambling on over nothing much at http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2705325&page=4