Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

[JRuss]

focus22 -- thanks for stopping by, and I appreciate the good wishes! I'm trying to focus on what I have and not so much on what I don't, which I think is what everyone should do, but especially LBSs.

Sorry sandi2 -- I was in a bitter, frustrated mood when I asked you that question. I know it's not what you meant when you related your anecdote. Part of me gets pretty nauseated at the idea that such an abusive jerk could destroy one family and land in a different one down the road and be happily content. I side with the first family, whether they knew how to enforce boundaries or not.