For as long as I have watched this site the big question to me was always how long does LBS stay in limbo? What's long enough, and how do you determine that? I don't know the answer to that question. I just think every person has their point. I remember back in the day a very well respected poster named FIB posed the question about DBing and whether it was all worth it for the LBS to go on for potentially years in limbo with what could be false hope or a long journey to reconciliation.
Someone on my thread gave me an excellent answer to this that I use regularly - sadly I can't recall who it was to give them proper credit.
The answer is 1 day.
This is a journey with many twists and turns and you can't know where it will end up. So what I try to do and what works for me is to wake up each day and decide if today is the day I'm going to stop waiting. If I feel myself wavering I search around for motivation, whether its Love, Duty, Compassion, History, it's all fuel to the fire that keeps me standing.
If on that one day I wake up and I am sure that I am done and can find no more fuel to keep me standing and know that no more fuel will be coming in the future, then on that day, I'll be done. That day hasn't come and may never.
This might not work for everyone, but it works for me.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
