Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #4]

[mulesqb]

Hey FG - Just checking in on you. You seem down. I just wanted to say that's ok and part of the process. When I felt like that I always thought of it as "mourning" the breakup of my old M whether or not I was going to reconcile later on.

It's ok to have down days. I actually hear some strength in some of the things you are saying.

For as long as I have watched this site the big question to me was always how long does LBS stay in limbo? What's long enough, and how do you determine that? I don't know the answer to that question. I just think every person has their point. I remember back in the day a very well respected poster named FIB posed the question about DBing and whether it was all worth it for the LBS to go on for potentially years in limbo with what could be false hope or a long journey to reconciliation.

I think after a point the LBS has to look within themselves and determine a few things...is the wayward spouse still a person you could love? Have they changed in a way that you can see a future together? Can you trust them again?

Then there are the personal questions about the person you are now.

All food for thought..

Keep being you.

Strength and Honor.

Mules